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For example, chapter 1 is about puberty, but then chapter 2 jumps straight into the mechanics of sex. 3) There are topics that are completely absent but are extremely relevant today. If they don't, someone will and this book provides some great ideas / thoughts on how to approach the subject.My disappointment: 1) The topic order in the Dad / Son section is chaotic, swinging wildly from one topic to the next. This is a topic that fathers ABSOLUTELY need to cover with their sons. My expectations were too high for this book. That means Dads (or Moms) are going to have to find other sources of information and uncover topics that may be uncomfortable but have to be explored and shared with our sons.This book is one source of information on your journey. In my opinion, the intended audience of these sections is too young for the stories he shares. For the 13-15 year olds, he covers his college experiences.
But this book is silent on many topics, reasons unknown. It will require some serious planning to get the topics into an order that actually makes sense. I have been disappointed for many reasons.First, the good. Abuse, homosexuality, situational awareness, how to protect yourself (school, public, church), camera phones, sexting, and social networking are just a few of the missing topics.Today's world is even more complex sexually than when we parents were kids. There is a great gulf of information between these two topics that is left for other chapters that follow, if covered at all. 2) In the section for 11-13 year olds, the author covers his high school experiences. If you are going to do right by your sons in teaching them, you have got to cover all the topics they face in today's world, not just those we grew up with or those this author experienced. But, don't consider it the only source and certainly not the singular authority because it is quite lacking on several levels and topics in my opinion.
In a world filled with so much sexual sin, this is a great book for helping your son avoid sexual sins. It has 2 sections, one for the parent and one for study to do together. I can't recommend this book enough.
I read this book, seeing I have a younger teenage son. Almost bragging/proud to tell about them. Sorry, he lost the opportunity to carry that title (Pure)when he got "tired of being a virgin", and gave up his purity, which can never be gotten back, no matter how chaste he is after. However, I will NOT be reading the second half with my son. Writing books, etc. Why. The first half of the book is good basic information for young minds to grasp. I'm glad, after numerous sexual encounters with many women, he finally came to himself and decided to be "pure" until marriage, and do the "Lord's" work/write books, etc.
It's my feeling the authors are much too graphic with their whoremongering (Yes, that is it's true title. Yes, I know "mistakes" is more politically correct) when they were younger. (which was definitely NOT the case for this guy) So, the question for me as a Dad is: Do I want my son to think he can be just like the author, an abuser of women for his own selfish gratification, and come out "OK" on the other side. I have to say a resounding, No.
If you are a dad with a boy between 10 and 13, you need this book. Your relationship will never be the same and never be better.
Generally the book is well done, but I found a variety of the descriptions to simply cover situations and scenarios which I largely did not experience as a boy. I read the first half of the book (which is to be read by the dad alone), then proceeded to read the latter half with my son. I would highly recommend that the dad read the whole book first, not just the first half. Since the book asks the dad, at the end of each chapter, to talk about their experiences you want to be prepared to address issues you may not have experienced. I don't fault the author so much for this (everyone has a different experience, and it is ultimately absurd for anyone to think that everyone is cookie cutter), but this is an important set of topics to discuss with your son - read the whole book and tailor appropriately, IMHO.
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